It is sometimes asked whether it is better to retain a detached attitude in one's relations with others during the day, or to cultivate and concentrate on a feeling of unity with them and with the All. Since both are necessary, one should follow his inner promptings as to which phase needs to be developed at any particular time. By keeping his approach flexible, and by carefully heeding these inner promptings, his judgement of and dealings with all daily situations will be greatly improved. Such promptings--when free of and not influenced by selfish desires--will shift of their own accord when the need for balance arises.
-- Notebooks Category 2: Overview of Practicies Involved > Chapter 5: Balance the Psyche > # 104